Thursday, December 15, 2005

Love means ...

As the Love Goddess, I’ve been challenged to define the word Love. I’ve wisely avoided this because, despite occasionally being an audacious know-it-all, I realize this is an impossible task. I can tell you what it's not, and I can tell you what it’s like. I might even be able to describe my Love well enough that you almost feel it. But Love is too personal, too massive and too dynamic for definition. No grouping of words can encapsulate what Love is to each of us. It’s best to leave the wordless knowing that we share with one another be. Such a precious thing might fall to pieces with our fumbling attempts to create literal un-knowing.

Love means . . . (come a little closer, and I’ll whisper in your ear.)

25 Comments:

At 1:25 AM, Blogger Stupidramblings said...

Love is knowing your Camaro will always get you home--no matter how drunk you are...

 
At 2:34 AM, Blogger Brea said...

Love is a bite of chocolate. It is heaven everytime ;)

 
At 8:26 AM, Blogger Laurie said...

Love means..

being able to trust the other person.

 
At 9:42 AM, Blogger ZooooM said...

Love = Sass.

 
At 10:04 AM, Blogger littlefeet said...

love is all of this and more...

peace...

 
At 10:07 AM, Blogger Steve said...

Sorry, if I am writing a poetic book here, lovely Love Goddess...

If I had a "clinical" definition of love...I think it would be: "Love is enjoyment WITH a sense of responsibility and futurity." In order to love someone, I need to enjoy that person for who they are...and show it…hopefully, for a lifetime. To love is to enjoy and to enjoy is to love.

And because "real love," to me, is about always showing care; love always requires / demands work on our parts...to not only respond to each other, but to respond 'correctly' to each other...that means we have to listen...even to things that are left unspoken. To make visible, what is often hidden.

Sometimes love whispers...sometimes love shouts at the top of its lungs...but love is always about understanding and realizing what our best interests are together.

Love is also mindful of the consequences of its actions, and always hopeful, always looking toward the future. The biggest sin is taking it's futurity for granted.

Love is so precious...we should stare at its light everyday...and polish it with the softest cloths, so that it keeps shining radiantly, no matter what the weather outside is like.

We should carry it, and never bury it...we should give it away, and never lock it away.

Anyway...just some thoughts that don't cost anything.

 
At 3:34 PM, Blogger Al said...

Love is lots of things - trust, compassion but it's not anything with that freaky Ziggy caracter on it. Neil Young said love is like a Rose. Minnie Ripperton said loving you is really pitched "lalala's" but If think love is a boat - Love, exciting and new - come aboard, we're expecting you. Love, life's sweetest reward, send it out, it will come back to you - The Love Boat is making another run.
Just remember to come aboard for adventure.

Sent you some email - let me know if you recieved it.

 
At 3:36 PM, Blogger Blazngfyre said...

Love Is .....

.... all encompassing.

 
At 6:41 PM, Blogger Anonymous Assclown said...

Love is valuing someone else's happiness more than your own.

 
At 8:35 PM, Blogger theresa said...

It's so much better when everyone adds their own personal ideas. Well done.

StupidR - Sure, if you're David Hasselhoff and you have a care named Kitt.

Brea - Yummmm!

Laurie - Without trust, the rest falls to pieces.

Zoooom - ... and Zoom is sassy, therefore, Zoom is loverly.

Monkey - Absolutely!!! Thanks for the linky.

Steve - I was hoping you'd chime in. Lots of good thoughts. Thanks.

Al - I like all those ideas ... But, blast it all! I know you put that Love Boat theme in my head on purpose, Al. That's downright mean.

Blaze - It's a great feeling.

AC - I like that one a lot.

 
At 8:43 PM, Blogger Aisha T. said...

Well, since love makes you crazy, I'm too insane to answer this question. I know a lot of times it can hurt. Nobody hurts me as bad as the ones I love and especially THE ONE. F%@ked up in away. Luckily that is not often (I think!)except with my fam. Too many strong-willed sisters.
I trust my guy implicitly and know that he doesn't think of anyone else. Sure, we joke and point out who we think is good looking and make panting noises as we hump legs (that last humping thing is only me not him...drives him batty) but, there is that unsaid thing of it doesn't matter who else is around. The number one is you.
Now, if you ask him, he would probably say that love is having the patience to put up with Aishy bouncing off the walls and gritting teeth as she humps said leg for attention.

But, I've barely scratched the surface and still can't seem to answer that question. We could peel it open further with the different kinds of love and I'll be sitting in front of my computer dying from pissing on myself trying to find the answer.

 
At 11:52 PM, Blogger Al said...

T- Sorry, didn't mean to be mean to you. Would never wanna upset you shnuggams. Love the new pic. Very hot!

 
At 12:47 AM, Blogger theresa said...

Aisha - Love is laughing at you pissing yourself. You never fail to crack me up, Girl! And, you and I see eye-to eye on the overwhelmingness of trying to define this L-thing.

Al - Love means ... I was goshin'. I'm not really upset, Sweets. I hardly ever get for really-real mad. Besides, you totally score extra points for "shnuggams". Very nice.
- Thanks, Larry took the pic when I was in CA last month. It was during lunch while I was mesmerized by the beer list ... didn't notice the camera at all.

 
At 12:53 AM, Blogger kelebek }{ said...

Rough translation of how we defined love when I went to an allgirls middle school:
"Ask bir havuzdur, icine aptallar duser, ama ben itildim"
"Love is a pool that only fools fall into, but I was pushed!"
I went to a Catholic high school and I had to define "love" so many times, got sick of it!!!

 
At 10:57 AM, Blogger Ginger and Mary Ann said...

Love:
When you both stop asking
"Why is she/he so damn...!

And both start wondering
"What can I do so I'm not so damn....!"

 
At 11:48 AM, Blogger Kyle Stich said...

Break any word down, try to box it up into a neat definition, and one finds words mean nothing at all. (come closer and I'll show you what love means)

 
At 4:21 PM, Blogger Dick the Boomer said...

I'm ready...but don't whisper in my ear quite yet. Just let me be close to you awhile longer.

 
At 6:28 PM, Blogger gnightgirl said...

Love the new pic!

 
At 6:51 AM, Blogger Dick the Boomer said...

Laurie already said it - Love means trust.

 
At 10:49 AM, Blogger theresa said...

Kelebek}{ - That's a good one!, although, I've felt pulled more than pushed.

G & MA - It's true for me. When I'm in love, I want to be the best I can be.

Kyle - ooooo ... gooosebumps.

Dick - *sigh* That's smooth, Baby!

G-girl - Thanks, Sweets!

Dick - I truly believe these things are connected, yet with different kinds of love, it gets tricky. There are a number of people I trust completely, who I'm not "IN LOVE" with. At the same time, when IN LOVE, if trust is betrayed, there's terrible damage. It can even send the whole wonderful thing down the tubes for good.

 
At 12:01 PM, Blogger JayneSays said...

I think of love more in terms of unconditional acceptance. Romantic "love" and lust are fun, but I think they are usually more like addiction/escape than pure love. Especially if you can turn it off and on if you're not getting what you want from the other person. But, being "in love" feels so close to that pure unconditional acceptance, especially at the beginning of a relationship. Can you imagine if we were all purely, radiantly in love like that with everyone all the time?

And love is a feeling, it is experiential, you are right, no words can do it justice : ) Love your post, Babe : )

 
At 2:50 PM, Blogger Kyle Stich said...

Check out your local library for a copy of Octavio Paz's The Double Flame: Love and Eroticism. He does a remarkable job talking through the very notion of what is love and what is eroticism. The first couple chapters are a terrific read, but the rest of the book requires excellent familiarity with a dying Western literary canon. He says and argues with a lot of the things said here today. For instance:

"Love is instantaneous; friendship takes time."

"The original, primordial fire, sexuality, raises the red flame of eroticism, and this in turn raises and feeds another flame, tremulous and blue: the flame of love. Eroticism and love: the double flame."

And one of my favorites:

"Love is not simple. It is a mixture of several elements united and animated by desire."

 
At 6:59 AM, Blogger Chick said...

How wise you are to not think you can classify LOVE with words...love is an image of those I keep in my soul, those who've been there for me...or those who I'll always be there for...love makes you feel special, useful, funny, sad, beautiful, heartbroken...but most of all it makes you feel touched & effected & never alone.

 
At 2:34 PM, Blogger AndyT13 said...

Love means having to say you're sorry every five fucking minutes.

 
At 7:27 PM, Blogger theresa said...

Jayne - You've just illustrated how we need more words for all the distinct phases of love, as well as all the different kinds of love.

Kyle - Love the quotes. Thanks for the lit tip.

Chick - For someone who said that love couldn't be defined with words, you did a hell of a job!

Andy - That sounds a lot like angry-love. Trouble in paradise, Sweets?

 

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